As a 56-year-old woman, I’ve been doing some math lately. The kind that’s not exactly fun but is eye-opening, to say the least. Statistically speaking, if I live to the average life expectancy for women in the U.S., I’ve got about 23 Christmases left to make memories with the people I love. Let that sink in for a moment.
Now, before you think, Wow, that’s a depressing way to start a blog post, hear me out. This isn’t meant to be a downer. It’s meant to be a reminder—a nudge to show up for the holidays in ways that matter, to prioritize what truly counts, and to create moments that fill your heart, not just your calendar. Let’s make these 23 Christmases the most meaningful yet.
Why This Matters
Time is a funny thing. We tend to think of the holidays as a series of routine moments: shopping lists, gift-wrapping marathons, and cookie-baking sessions. But what if we took a step back and approached the season differently? What if we focused on being present instead of just getting through? Imagine the difference it could make to view this holiday season, and all future ones, as a gift—a limited, precious gift.
We’re all in different stages of life, and our reasons for embracing the holiday season may vary. Some of us might be celebrating with young children, others might be navigating the bittersweetness of an “empty nest,” or perhaps we’re remembering loved ones who are no longer with us. Wherever you are, know this: the holidays can be more than just a busy time of year. They can be a season of intention, joy, and reflection.
Embracing Imperfection
If there’s one thing I’ve learned through the ups and downs of life, it’s that perfection is a myth. Let’s face it: none of us have a picture-perfect holiday season, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s better than okay—it’s real. It’s what makes those moments unforgettable.
Maybe this year you can’t host a grand feast or craft the perfect DIY decorations. Maybe the kids are too old to believe in Santa, or you’re mourning someone who should be there but isn’t. Embrace the mess. Embrace the chaos. The moments when the cookies burn, the dog eats the wrapping paper, or the in-laws are cranky? Those are the moments you’ll remember, laugh about, and cherish long after the holiday season ends.
Practical Tips to Make the Most of This Holiday Season
Now, let’s talk actionable advice for making the most of each holiday season. Because inspiration is great, but it needs a practical framework to turn into action.
- Create a Holiday Bucket List
A simple way to add intention to the season is to create a holiday bucket list. Don’t overthink it; this is for you and your family to focus on what you truly want to do. Here are some ideas:- Take a drive to see the Christmas lights.
- Have a family movie night with hot cocoa and popcorn.
- Visit a holiday market or craft fair.
- Make a new holiday recipe together.
- Volunteer at a local shelter or community center.
- Start New Traditions
If you’re feeling like the holidays have become a routine rather than a celebration, it’s time to mix it up. Start a new tradition that’s meaningful to you. Whether it’s a morning hike to watch the sunrise on Christmas Day or an annual gift exchange of handmade items, it’s the new experiences that stay with us. - Be Present
Put down the phone, turn off the notifications, and simply be. It sounds simple, but it’s the one thing we often forget. When we’re present, we notice the small details: a child’s laugh, the scent of cinnamon, or a heartfelt conversation. It’s those little moments that make the biggest impact. - Plan Time for Yourself
In the midst of planning, hosting, and shopping, don’t forget to make space for yourself. It could be as simple as a quiet afternoon with a book, a long bath, or a coffee date with a friend. Self-care is not selfish; it’s what helps us show up for others with love and energy. - Reflect and Honor What’s Missing
The holidays can be especially hard when we’re missing someone we love. Whether it’s the first Christmas without a loved one or the anniversary of a loss, acknowledging the absence and honoring the memory is part of finding peace. Consider lighting a candle, creating a memory jar, or sharing stories that keep their spirit alive.
Resources and Recommendations
- Books to Inspire: A Christmas Memory by Truman Capote is a perfect read for anyone who wants to feel all the warmth and nostalgia of the season.
- Podcasts for the Season: Listen to How to Stay Grounded During the Holidays for practical advice on keeping your cool during the holiday hustle and bustle.
- Products to Bring Joy: Treat yourself to a set of seasonal candles (think cinnamon or pine) to set the mood, or a cozy throw blanket to snuggle up with during movie nights.
- Self-Care Essentials: Try a holiday-scented bath soak or a mini spa kit to help you unwind after a long day of festivities.
Wrapping It Up
So, what does having 23 Christmases left really mean? It means embracing each one with intention, filling them with moments that matter, and creating memories that last longer than the wrapping paper and bows. It’s not about having the perfect holiday; it’s about having a real one.
This season, let’s focus on the things that truly matter: love, laughter, and connection. Because when we look back, those are the moments we’ll treasure most.
Here’s to a holiday season that’s imperfectly beautiful, full of joy, and deeply meaningful. Let’s make it count.