If you’ve never heard the term Misogi, here’s the simple version:
It originally came from a Japanese Shinto purification ritual — washing away what’s old so something new can emerge.
In modern life, people use “Misogi” to describe one big challenge a year that stretches you physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. One thing that interrupts autopilot.
And honestly? Midlife is the perfect time for this.
We’ve done the years of reacting, caretaking, surviving, and putting ourselves last. A Misogi is a chance to intentionally choose something that reminds you you’re still growing — and still in charge of your story.
2. Why Just One?
Because life is already full.
Most of us don’t need another year-long list of 47 goals that just make us feel behind. A Misogi is different. It forces focus. It asks:
If I could only accomplish ONE thing this year that would change how I see myself, what would it be?
Not something for your résumé.
Not something for social media.
Something just for you — that shifts your confidence, your identity, or your belief about what’s possible.
3. How to Choose Your Misogi
I like using three filters:
1. Fear + Excitement
It should make you feel a little nervous and a little thrilled.
If it feels too easy, it’s not a Misogi.
If it feels impossible, it’s not for this season of life.
2. Growth Over Glory
Choose something that develops your character — not something that looks impressive on paper.
3. Logistically Realistic
It should stretch you without blowing up your life.
We’re in midlife — we’re not trying to burn our lives down for the sake of a challenge.
Examples for this stage of life:
- Completing a certification that expands your financial freedom
- Leading a fundraising retreat or creative workshop
- Training for a long-distance hike or a 10K
- A full year of “no unnecessary spending”
- Launching your first digital product or course
- Finally learning investing or day trading
- Recording your first podcast season
Make it meaningful, not miserable.
4. The Burnout Guardrails
A Misogi is supposed to change you — not break you.
A few simple guardrails keep things healthy:
- Set a rhythm: plan → act → rest → reflect.
- Find accountability: one friend or an online circle.
- Focus on experience, not metrics: the process is the whole point.
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about consistency and willingness.
5. Closing Thought
A Misogi isn’t about being fearless — it’s about being willing.
Every year deserves one bold, meaningful thing that reminds you you’re still here, still capable, and still able to surprise yourself.
One year from now, what will your “I actually did that” moment be?